We ALL agree about the dangers of texting while driving! Don't text and drive because the danger is not worth the momentary word which you might want to share verses oncoming traffic. Lets now apply the same form of language to relationships. DONT TEXT TO RESOLVE CONFLICT...
So many people today are moving into the digital age to communicate and texting cannot deliver the spirit of what you are saying or how you are saying it to another person. If you are in the middle of a heated conversation, or you have a conflict resolution which requires your full attention, a "quick text" can be as damaging as a head on collision on a four lane highway.
Its serious when our world has resulted to digital communication verses a heart to heart conversation anymore. Just recently a recent study in a New York restaurant showed that the timeliness of service, the expeditious nature and quality of the restaurant had declined due to "digital technology" entering the workplace. Selfies, texting to friends which slowed down ordering, waiters stopping to wait on consumers and more all contributed to a less productive work environment.
There used to be a day when people sat at a table and talked about their problems, but now we multi task at such high levels, we forget who we are and where we are because our mini-computers are ten times worse than any pager could ever be. Guess what, this is MY problem too. I have fallen into the trap of trying to "one minute manage" all kinds of situations and hit a train wreck in the middle of the process. So the bottom line is,...its just not safe.
Christ said, "I am the way, the truth and the life and no man comes to the father except by me". I wish I could have heard him say those words, because when we just read them, we don't know the spirit in which they are delivered. We can interpret the Word to the best of our ability, but can you imagine the power of when Jesus said, "I make all things new" and knowing, HE REALLY CAN!
If you have a conflict with someone, go to them and be open, loving, non-judgemental and sincere with them. In person is always the best and over the phone is only second best, next to Face Time. If it doesn't go like you would like it to go, take a friend with you and try to resolve it with more than one party present. This is a Biblical solution which has proven the test of time over and over again.
You have to remember you can't deal rationally with irrational people so use mercy, grace and forgiveness as your mantle. Don't try to "text out" of a crisis, but instead go back to one on one fundamentals of real relationship building. Pray before you go and go "in love" with a real sincere hope to reconcile.
As part of our New Year, make peace with your brothers and sisters in life. Don't carry any grudges over, stop taking an accounting of rights and wrongs, leave those at the alter of the heart and give them over to God. Let your anger, rage, frustrating and anxiety at the feet of the Cross and remember, Christ died for our sins and He offers you a new life, a new beginning and a new journey into the future. Its time to clean the slate, so throw out the digital age of communication and get back to the reality of being a friend, in every sense of the word.
I love you all... Kevin
Kevin McAfee is a film maker who writes for the purpose of inspiring others to make a difference in the world through faith in God using the visual language of film. His blog is shared in hopes of impacting culture, but his heart is in media missions and the church.